Fear of rejection exists because you've rejected yourself.
If you genuinely loved and accepted any given part of yourself, you wouldn't really care if anybody else liked it.
Its only when you reject yourself that you worry about the opinions of others.
It's basically saying "I need you to love me, because I don't love myself. If you don't do it, no one will."
But that's just flat on its face wrong, IF you love yourself.
If you can actually say: "my access to love is never even in question. I know with 100% certainty that I will ALWAYS have access to love in all parts of myself."
You get a very different reality.
Which can only be done by finding the parts you've rejected, and then specifically loving those.
You can find them by asking yourself:
What am I afraid people will think of me?
What am I afraid would happen if I got rejected?
How would I judge myself if I got rejected?
These kinds of questions will put you into contact with the parts of you that you've rejected.
From there it's your job to form the relationship with them that they wish they could get from other people.
You get to be that source of love, acceptance, nurturance and support that they so deeply need.
And you won't have to sell yourself out to get it.
It'll just be there, no matter what.
Even if you fail, even if you mess up, even if you do some cringey shit in front of everyone.
Your love and acceptance will never run out.
You'll be free.
So find what you've rejected and love it like your life depends on it.
Because it does.
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